Thursday, September 2, 2010
When you're mothering under the roof of a parental figure, why does said parental figure feel that s/he can undermine your authority? If I remember correctly, it was me who carried Emma those 9 months, and it was me who laid up there on that table while the doctor cut her from my womb. I don't mind advice, but I do mind when I give a clear and direct, "NO, you may not", and then grandma comes along with a powerful YES that kicks the shit outta my NO. Sigh. Is it really just a losing battle?
I did not chime in when the grand-folks allowed their 9 year old to go to bed and wake up playing video games. I did not chime in when he screamed, cried and lost it whenever someone came in between him and the video game. It wasn't until they made the decision to take it away from him that I gave the advice that, given the fact that he is obviously addicted, not trusting him to put it away and play with it at appropriate times was a good idea. All I ask is for the same authority. Please don't go over my head, suggests things, give your opinion - trust me, there is a difference. One more reason for me to fantasize about our future home away from this home.