One of 5 Love Languages
The other day, a friend read to me about love. More specifically, a friend read to me about the languages of love. Love has a language? Love has more than one language? You learn something new everyday.
Apparently, according to Gary Chapman, there are 5 languages of love. My friend determined that her love language is actually a mix. She's a lot of Words of Affirmation with a little Physical Touch. She needs to hear what one is feeling, especially when it comes to feelings about her. Verbal appreciating keeps her "love tank" full.
I, on the other hand, have had an overdose of Words of Affirmation. Over the years I've realized, that for me, words without action don't mean a thing. While a little Physical Touch goes a long way with me, I run on Quality Time. It's just one of those things that I find so important, and this is coming from a woman who likes to hide out in her apartment! There is nothing more gratifying than spending time with someone and having their "undivided attention". There is nothing more gratifying than feeling like, within that moment, it's just all about me/us/we.
Seems so simple doesn't it? Yet, I don't remember ever voicing this need, in this way, in my last relationship. And looking back, at all the things he did and didn't say, I can now clearly see that, like my friend, he is a mix of Words of Affirmation and Physical Touch - with a whole lotta introvert thrown in for fun. I'm not saying that knowing this now would remove the "ex" from our current titles, but if the knowing would have been in those earlier years, perhaps we would have survived what he came to realize was unsurvivable. Hmph...
Yes, you learn something new everyday. Love and communicate are no exception.